Why Can’t They See It?

And why the answer might change everything about how you see yourself.

You keep waiting for it to click. You explain it gently. Then clearly. Then through tears. You bring the receipts and the screenshots. You stay calm. You try again. You leave. You regroup. You try again.

Not because you're not seeing it—but because you're desperate to make it make sense. You’re trying to get them to see it.

You are dealing with the impact, the harm, the pattern of blame, and trying to come back to the truth. You just want them to meet you in clarity.

But they never do and it is so disorienting.

I am going to try to explain something hard to explain: some people will choose denial over growth, power over connection, control over love. Every single time. While claiming that they’re not.