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Madeline's avatar

"It’s because you were trained—systematically, emotionally, and relationally—to believe that your worth was tied to your compliance."

^Ouch. That hits hard. Being praised for following the rules never felt like a bad thing growing up. How unintentionally insidious.

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E. A.'s avatar

Healthy boundaries are about loving yourself enough to say no.

When I was first learning to do this, I felt terror because my history was to be attacked for setting a healthy boundary.

The names I was called were selfish, lazy, and not accepting of change.

All of those things are the opposite of who I am.

Abusers use the very things, that are important to you and will hook you the most.

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